It is an illusion if you have the idea that "chemistry" and your undying love for each other will keep you married together forever.
With the increase in divorces these days, it is pretty obvious that the traditional beliefs of till death do us part is not the case. Hence, it is important for you to know a few little secrets before you take the marriage oath.
Check out the 5 tips that can help couples stay together longer after they get married.
Be expressive
Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners tend to stop praising each other because they 'assume' their partner already knows what they're thinking.
When in reality, a day should never go by without you praising your partner. Compliment them on their cooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest person in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your sweetheart, love and romance them first. When they're feeling loved, it is much easier to love in return.
Are you a super supporter of what your mate does and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them
constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or silence?
Keep your dating rituals
Couples stop going on date nights the moment they got married. If you do not add something special in your marriage or do new things after your marriage, you will slowly drift apart.
That's why going on new and refreshing dates is so important. In fact, there is something about“dating” that creates a sense of magic in a relationship and can even bring relationships out of a rut.
While on a date, you also put more effort into your appearance, have more uninterrupted time to communicate on a deeper level and are naturally drawn closer together.
Stuck for ideas? Spend the day at the aquarium, zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach or park, prepare dinner together, learn dancing and many more. You just need to be creative here.
Understand your partner well and it takes time
Couples with the most problems are often the ones that say, "I just don't understand him/her."
So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about your mate's profession or the degree they are pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his interest in rugby? If you are a man, do you fully understand what women experience during PMS or menopause?
You don't need to be identical, but make an effort to learn about the things that interest your partner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.
Do not rush into getting married
It’s a well-documented statistic that couples who have dated for a year or longer before marriage have a significantly lower rate of divorce than those who married after a short dating period.
A year of dating gives time for many emotions to surface and many character traits to be discovered.
You may adore someone in the spring, but despise him or her in the winter.
Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.
Do not avoid answering "BIG" questions
Does your partner want kids? Do you both want careers? Do they have a history of spending their way into debt? Do they go to church?
In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get married.
I guess people think they'll be able to change their spouses after marriage and everything will be better. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discuss finances, religion, sex, housing, your future, and other topics in great detail, you could end up with nothing but argument after argument for the rest of your days.
In the end, if you both have completely different views, desires and goals in life, there’s no guarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s" will help you stay together.
Make it your utmost priority to understand each other 'inside-out' BEFORE you take that walk down the aisle.
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